Ladies, we're overworked because we try to do it all. We want his help. We complain if he doesn't help and yet we want him to do everything OUR way. Does that seem right or fair? Would you want him to tell YOU how to do everything you do? Of course not.
I'll agree that hierarchy is not a bad thing. Someone has to be the boss and someone has to follow. Then why not use the hierarchy God put into place: The husband leads and the wife follows.
Our husbands are imperfect beings. They WILL make mistakes, but so will we. If we learn to start trusting our husbands to do for us, sometimes they'll do things their way and sometimes they'll do things our way. Sometimes they'll succeed and sometimes they'll fail. But if we continue to let him lead, eventually he'll figure out the best ways to do things will be by soliciting our input. A wise man will consider that input and will, on occasion, go in the direction of his wife's suggestion. On other occasions he will not. On both occasions, however, we'll be working as a team.
Doing things OUR way isn't always ideal if it strips a man of his God-given role as head-of-household. If you want to go out with the girls, don't tell him what he is to do with the house and the kids while you're gone. He can handle it. If he has a question let him ask. If he makes a mistake he'll learn. If he does things differently than you and the kids live to tell about it, then accept it.
Ladies, many of our problems are caused by our unwillingness to surrender control. Now that's OUR problem. It starts by realizing that ultimately God is in control and things aren't always going to work out as planned. So, the best thing you can do for your husband is pray for him. Pray for his wisdom and discernment. Pray he can make the best decisions for you and your family and then let go of the reins and entrust him to God. Now THAT is the best kind of power you can ever have.