When it came to love those Greeks sure had everything covered. This next style they differentiated was called ludus. Ludus, is a game-playing love based on low levels of commitment and seeing relationships as fun, playful and casual. Now hold on right there if you have already turned your nose up to Ludus thinking “Well, this isn’t true love then. Love is committed! Love is not all about games and fun!” I understand. I may have said the same thing before I became an “expert” on love and marriage.
What is love? For something so important and so basic to human existence it is sorely inadequate that the English language has only one word. In the Greek language there are at least eight words to represent the different kinds of love. In this relatively new millennium where "progress" is touted as enlightenment and we perceive our world as more advanced than ever before, it's actually rather pathetic that we haven't evolved enough or advanced our language in a way that would produce a better selection of words to represent the diversity of feelings currently encapsulated in the single word "love." After all, we've had zero problem creating new words to represent all of the other innovations of modern culture in the 2020s: Selfie, Google it and sexting are just a few examples (and point to the turn towards self-gratification and instant information to boot). C'mon people! We can do better than this.
Dr. Christine Bacon is a communication and relationships expert whose articles seek to encourage, inspire and teach others to become the best versions of themselves possible. Here, she offers valuable insights and advice on matters of personal, couples, family and workplace relationships.