When you and your spouse are split up, divorced or dealing with a major issue like his or her infidelity, the world will allow you to categorize that person as the one at fault, the one who made the mistake, the one who broke the marriage.
But don't listen to the world.
While you may be the one hurting and begging for your spouse to come home, the victim of an affair, etc., you are not without fault - EVER.
You are NOT the good guy.
Our thoughts dictate our feelings. If we think more equitably about our spouse and ourselves we are more inclined to reconcile as we begin to notice all those ways that we, too, failed within our marriages. Satan wants the blame game and the mathematical division of the fault "Well, he was 90% to blame!" but God wants charity.
Loving one another isn't always easy but we've been commanded to do so. So let's get those planks out of our eyes so that when our spouses return we can start working on the speck in theirs.